As we were reminded this week by Brother
Gibbons, we can turn to the scriptures to help guide us as we journey toward
perfecting different areas of our lives. These daily steps towards perfecting
ourselves, will eventually help us in “becoming” more Christlike and eternal
beings. The scriptures tell us these small steps are important:
D&C 64:33 "Wherefore, be not weary in well-doing, for
ye are laying the foundation of a great work. And out of small things
proceedeth that which is great."
So, this week as I turned to the
parable of the 10 Virgins to learn about our marriages…something I had never
considered when I had previously studied this parable, I did so remembering we
were told that we could look for “the importance of preparedness, heeding
warnings, diligence, 'careful vs casual' and…emotional intimacy.”
Matthew 25
1 “Then shall
the kingdom of heaven be likened unto ten virgins, which took
their lamps, and went forth to meet the bridegroom.
2 And five of them were
wise, and five were foolish.
3 They that
were foolish took their lamps, and took no oil with them:
4 But
the wise took oil in their vessels with their lamps.”
As I discussed this with my
spouse this week, I could see how we could interpret this parable, with turning
toward one another in mind. I thought about my communications and all the
things we did to connect with each other and saw that they were either helping
to fill our lamp, not adding to it or assisting in depleting what had
previously been put in it.
My 26th
anniversary was this week and I was away from my spouse on an assignment for
work in southern Utah for 4 days. I spent one of the evenings in the hotel
looking at all the different depictions of the Parable of the 10 Virgins and it
made me think about how all of our marriages look different, just like the
paintings, but, just like the paintings our marriages can depict this important
parable, even though they do not look exactly the same. So, we don’t need to be
concerned if our relationship with our spouse is different than other people’s,
we only need to be concerned that we are heading as a couple, in the direction
where we can see we are better prepared, heeding warnings and diligently
working together to increase our emotional intimacy as we journey towards an
eternal marriage.
If we are truly working
together on these goals, we will not be competing against each other for
attention or “one up” each other in any way. We will seek to listen and truly
hear our spouses needs and show, through word and action, that they are
eternally important to us. I learned this week that, “When we receive the
marriage covenant, we also receive challenges and trials necessary for our
growth and advancement as individuals and couples.”
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